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IN MEMORY OF TONI. Toni was born in Nowra, Australia on June 11, 1995
Toni Died May 15, 1999.
Toni was 3 years and 11 months old. Toni will be remember forever. Missing Toni & Bam Days
Some days are BAM days, you think everything is fine and suddenly.... ..you will whiff a scent that reminds you of your loved one.. ..see a blond haired child amongst the crowded shopping centre.. ..you pick up a book that has a letter tucked inside that your child gave to you and you dismissed because you were to busy.. you hear a song that your child used to sing over and over and over and over and you told your her to quit singing that annoying song
Days like this are our bam days, We have good days, bad days and BAM days....
9 years ago, our lives fell apart when the doctors uttered those four words
"She didn't make it" Toni fought for her life, and when she couldn't fight anymore, the doctors fought for her. But it still was not enough. I vowed I would continue to fight for her life. Now 9 years later I am still fighting for her. With the Broadheads, and many other supporters we continue to fight for Toni, Belle and the many other families who have lost their children. By educating parents, salespersons, child care workers and anyone else who comes into contact with children in cars. We are continuing to fight. Thank you for your continued support. CLICK HERE TO SEE TONI'S MEMORIAL DAY BALLOON RELEASE
A MESSAGE FROM LEANNE
I wanted to say thank you for your messages.
Losing Toni was the hardest thing that has happened to me in my entire life. And finding the strength to just get out of bed every morning these past 8 years, has been so very hard. When I first started speaking out about what happened to Toni, I couldn't imagine that it would reach so many people and from all over the world. Toni is featured on the Kyle Miller Website in America which has 100's of views every single day! When we went national to the Australian Media in Feburary last year, re-living the accident and aftermath on National TV and in all the large newspapers, I found everything getting me down, I couldn't function properly, and i was an emotional wreck. I thought about giving it up! I wouldn't help bring Toni back to me, nothing would. But I received a Message from an Essential Baby Member, saying she had convinced her husband that their child needed to go back into a Booster and H Harness. A week or so later they were involved in a terrible accident but their child was safe, thanks to my speaking out and informing parents of the safest options available.!! I realized then that NO it wouldn't bring Toni back but it did allowed a mother to hold her child another night, to tuck him into bed, to hug and kiss and cuddle him and NOT to go through what we did. And I knew then and there that I was doing the right thing, no matter how hard it is...knowing that I would give anything for one last kiss, or cuddle with Toni. TONI SAVED THAT LITTLE BOY. Thank you for your messages, it means a lot to hear feedback, makes getting up in the morning a little bit easier. Please keep safe and your child/ren. Leanne Perry  Toni died in 1999, when she was just 3 years and 11 months old. She was travelling in a car with her family when it was hit by another car. "A minor accident that everyone should have walked away from." All other occupants of the car walked away uninjured including Toni's baby brother who was 5 days old. The Adult seatbelt she was wearing crushed her tiny chest, causing one of the tubes to her heart to be severed. We didn't know this could happen, that a seatbelt could kill. We were ill-informed and the knowledge was not readily available to us as parents. The law said she could travel in an adult seatbelt from 12 months old. Toni had just come out of her 5 point harness and we did not know she could use a booster with a H Harness. Knowing now that with this set up she would be here with us today breaks my heart.
"Australian parents are not given enough information to keep their children safe."
This is the why we have formed the BelleToni Association - for child passenger safety.  Toni was our second daughter. She was born after a one and a half hour labour. She had a head full of blonde hair, but not quite as blonde as her big sister Shannen. She had the most amazing dimples from the time she was born. She was eager to enter this world as quickly as possible and when she did, she made the most of everything.  She walked when she was 9 months old. People never beleived me, until Stephanie (my last child) walked at the same age. Although to say she walked is a bit of an understatement. Toni Ran. It was like she knew she knew she had to fit so much into a short period of time. When she ran, she didn't do it delicately and sweet either. She ran like an elephant.  She was the most happy, energetic child. She always made you laugh.When we told her she was going to be a big sister, she was so excited. We didn't realize how long 9 months was to a 3 year old. She would get into the bath with me and kiss the baby (my tummy) and laugh as the baby would kick the soap off my tummy. She was so happy when her new brother arrived. It had taken so long to get him here. She would pick out the outfit he would wear the next day before she went to home to bed. When I was in the hospital she would run down the hallway and all the nursing staff would laugh.  Toni and Shannen had caught the chicken Pox two weeks before their baby brother was due and when he was born they still had a few pox marks on their faces. One particular nurse was a bit nasty about them being near their newborn baby brother, but I told her it was their baby brother too.  Toni and her sister Shannen were best friends. They would sing and dance and Toni was like Shannen's shadow. The slept about 2 metres apart and up until Shannen started school they had spent their entire life together. They were as close as you always want your children to be. Toni was a constant audience member at the Sapphire Dance Academy. Her Auntie Hailey and Auntie Cindy attended dance lessons twice a week. She would stay with her nanny while I worked and attend their after school activities. After Toni passed away Meryl (now owner of StarZ Academy, Bomaderry), sponsored a Trophy for the Nowra Stage and Dance Festival in Honour of Toni.   "The Toni Perry Memorial Trophy for the most promising baby." It is such an honour to present the trophy every year. Toni died as a result of an accident in which she was a back seat passenger in Bomaderry. 200 metres from our home. The adult seat belt she was wearing caused the chest injuries that took her tiny life away. Her memory will always live on in many, many hearts of those who knew her, and many who didn't know her.
 If I can help save just one family,the heartbreak we went through and go through every single day then the pain of raising awareness of child passenger safety will be worth it. Parents need to be aware of the benefits of having their children suitably restrained according to their age and weight.
 We love you and miss you so much it hurts and we think of you every single day. Please light a candle for Toni before you leave so I know you have visited.   Is now up and running. We have not yet gained charity status so your donations are not tax-deductable YET. But your donations will be used to raise the awareness of child passenger safety and will save the lives of other little ones like Toni and Belle.
To make a donation to the BelleToni Association please contact Leanne. All donations will go towards the cost of education parents, through our Community Announcements on Television, pamphlets sent to preschools, daycare centres, playgroups and schools.
THIS IS A NOT FOR PROFIT ORGANISATION, WITH NO GOVERMENT FUNDING LINKS
Toni's YouTube Video 1
Toni's YouTube Video 2 Toni's YouTube Video 3 BelleToni Association Toni's Memorial on KylieDavidMiller Foundation Belle's Site Belle's YouTube Video 1 Belle's YouTube Video 2 Isabelles Forum Kyle David Miller Foundation You are my INSPIRATION
Did I ever tell you, while you were here by my side the way that as a baby, you were the reason for my pride You always had a smile for the strangers in the street You would show your great big dimples to the people we would meet As you began to walk around independence you had found until you came back crying when you fell upon the ground You never asked for trouble but you found it for yourself though it was just little things nothing major to harm your health You grew into a princess with lovely big blue eyes such a sweet young lady and a hit with all the guys But something tragic happened you were torn away from me the angels came and took you they helped you to fly free But I am left without you my angel, my darling little girl how can I face another second without you in my world But I am still a mother and must face another day all I can do is wish and pray I have the strength to speak out to tell the world about that day the reason why your no longer here and how you went away I will fight until my dying day to share your legacy worldwide That car seats and child harnesses are needed for every ride We didn't have the information, To keep our loved one safe Now we know the facts and we are spreading them in every place It is so very hard, my sweet one to help save another little child when I didn't know how to keep YOU safe. It makes my temper wild If only someone had told me how to strap you in the car You would be here with me right now and not a memory from afar You are my inspiration, you give me the strength i need each day to stop this happening to another child and taking them away So while you are looking over me with one hand upon my shoulder I take a breath, stand up straight and make my voice much bolder to shout aloud our warning, to others who may not understand to help them choose correctly and hold their child's hand Your gift to me was knowledge of how precious children are I will forever make it my job. To protect other children in their car Written by mummy (2007) |
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